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5 Differences Between The Guy You Date And The Guy You Marry | Thought Catalog

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The Guy You Date: Thinks about what you have to offer him. He loves you because you give him your undivided time and attention, you’re attractive, and you share common interests and hobbies like playing tennis or obsessing over Fall Out Boy. He is hoping you will be a good match for him.

The Guy You Marry: Thinks about what he has to offer you. He loves you because of who you are- he appreciates your quirks, your flaws and strange sense of humor, the way you snort when you laugh and read Charles Dickens every winter, and everything he’s come to know about you. He is hoping he will be a good husband for you.

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The Guy You Date: Is quick to become jealous when you’re around other guys. He gets angry easily, which often ends up in long, petty arguments. He is possessive over your time, and although that can be cute at times, it can also become just downright annoying.

The Guy You Marry: Places his trust in you, and gives you the benefit of the doubt. He tries to understand your point of view before asserting his own, and is willing to give you space when you need it. He is always open to talking things out, and continues to exercise patience that you may not always deserve.


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The Guy You Date: The guy you wear make-up for. You spend hours preparing for a date because you want to impress him. You want him to think you are pretty and you hope he will give you a kiss at the end of the night, reminding you that he’s yours.

The Guy You Marry: The guy who you are no longer self-conscious around. He tells you that you are beautiful with or without makeup, because he loves you for your heart, mind, and soul. You don’t need his kiss to affirm his affection, but he gives you one anyways, which still sends butterflies fluttering around inside your stomach.

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The Guy You Date: He’s a mystery. You like that he is a puzzle for you to solve, and you try to be enigmatic around him as well to keep him interested. You’re afraid that eventually, you may grow bored of each other.

The Guy You Marry: You know him like the back of your hand. You let down your guard around him because you feel comfortable with revealing all your secrets to him. Although there are times when you are bored out of your minds together, you are still happy just to be in each other’s company.

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The Guy You Date: The guy you have fun with; the guy you are with because you have feelings for him.

The Guy You Marry: The guy you have fun with, but also cry with, laugh with, fight with, love with, and will be with for the rest of your life. You have feelings for him, but you are not with him solely because of your emotions. You are with him because you will love him apart from how tired, depressed, or angry you feel. He understands that loving you denotes sacrificing his time, energy, and other aspirations, and is still more than willing to make the commitment. He loves you not with a selfish or envious love, but with a patient, enduring, humble, faithful and selfless one.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. It does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.” -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “

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G.k. Chesterton on the reality of a vow from The Superstition Of Divorce

G.k. Chesterton on the reality of a vow from The Superstition Of Divorce

"If through a broken heart God can bring His purposes to pass in the world, then thank Him for breaking your heart."

TheDailyPositive.com (via thedailypozitive)

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"You see what kills your body but you don’t see what kills your soul."

Lacey Sturm (via laceysturmquotes)

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by-grace-of-god:

hislittleflower-throughconcrete:

Crystalina Evert being real and loving and awesome. To people who ask me what I think about teaching chastity in schools, this is what it looks like.

Thought this was heartbreakingly beautiful. Then again, the Truth always is.

In reference to someone’s comment earlier today, THIS would make a great resource for the upcoming bestseller “50 SHADES OF CHASTITY”.

"Can I say something to young ladies here? I’m trying to pick my words carefully here. Your husband, whoever he is, single ladies, will have an unbelievable amount of influence over your sons and daughters in regards to spiritual things. If you want your children to love Jesus deeply, hold out for a man that is Godly. And let me tell you this: I am well aware that Godly men are rare. Lots of neat Christian boys, not a lot of Godly men. And we’re working our tails off for you to try to develop some into that. But don’t settle, because it’s better that you be lonely now than you be married and lonely later. Are you tracking with me? It is better that you be lonely now than for you to get married to a man that will teach your kids everything but the way of Jesus."

Matt Chandler (via amandaandinteriors)

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definitionofbrotherhood:

hxccatholic:

when people actually want to watch 50 shades of grey

let alone read those books

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Y’all need Jesus!

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lilith-not-eve:

Marrying young is not the end of my freedom. It means I want to travel and see the world, but with her by my side. It means I still like drinking in bars and dancing in clubs, but stumbling home with her at 2am and eating pizza in our underwear. It means I know that I want to kiss those lips every morning, and every night before bed. If you see marriage as the end of your ‘freedom’, you’re doing it wrong.

Well this was just beautiful

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"Love is not a bargain, but unconditional giving; it is not an investment, but a commitment come what may. Lovers are people who exceed their duty, who look around for ways to do more than is required of them. If you love your job, you don’t just do the minimum that is required; you do more. If you love your children, what would you not do for them? If a wife asks a husband to do her a favor, and he declines on the grounds that he is really not duty bound by the strict terms of the marriage contract to do it, that marriage is all over except for the paper work. Rather than rigorously defending their rights, lovers readily put themselves in the wrong and take the blame for the sake of preserving their love. Love, St. Paul said in his stunning hymn to love, is patient, kind, not puffed up or boastful; it bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (I Cor. 13). A world without love is a world governed by rigid contracts and inexorable duties, a world in which – God forbid! – the lawyers run everything. The mark of really loving someone or something is unconditionality and excess, engagement and commitment, fire and passion. Its opposite is a mediocre fellow, neither hot nor cold, moderate to the point of mediocrity. Not worth saving. No salt."

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onceuponawildflower:

aloofshahbanou:

There’s too much “I need him, he completes me” and not enough “I complete me yet I want them along for this journey”

A to the men.

Try “God completes me but I want him along for the journey”

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"…And then, of course, there’s the whole contraception question, which has made this all the more difficult, because so many Catholics, including, sadly, many priests, have it settled in their minds that deliberately sterile sex promotes the human good. But it doesn’t. We know through Revelation, reason and lived experience."
- Fr. Paul Check, Same-sex attraction and the Catholic Church

by-grace-of-god:

"…And then, of course, there’s the whole contraception question, which has made this all the more difficult, because so many Catholics, including, sadly, many priests, have it settled in their minds that deliberately sterile sex promotes the human good. But it doesn’t. We know through Revelation, reason and lived experience."

- Fr. Paul Check, Same-sex attraction and the Catholic Church

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The priesthood seems foreign to our postmodern world. In a culture obsessed with sex, celibacy seems strange. In a culture of “independence,” obedience seems a burden. And in a self-centered culture, in which self-fulfillment is deified and worshiped, a life of radical charity seems impossible and naïve.

The priest is a sign of contradiction, a living witness to the love of Christ himself.

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Archbishop Samuel J. Aquila (Denver)

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"[M]y vocation is not only the way I love God but also the way God loves me."

Fr. James Martin, S.J. - My Life with the Saints  (via nerdybeatlemaniac429)

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howietheghost:

Hugh Laurie’s Unchain my heart; a blues number from the good ‘ol Dr. Gregory House himself.

This reminds me of an Eastern proverb that I learned during my days in Eastern and Transpersonal (Spirituality) psychology class it goes like this.

Love is like a butterfly resting gently in the palm of your hand. When we grasp onto Love hold onto it refusing to let it go we crush that butterfly. But if we allow our Love to be free, allow it to fly off and live and be happy, there is a chance that it is true Love and if it is it will come back and sit again on your palm, fly off and be itself but then come back yet again, always by your side as a free individual, free to love you as they are called to love you.

For Hugh Laurie’s Unchain my Heart, he is singing as that butterfly begin crushed by his “lover’s” hand because even though she no longer loves him she is holding onto him, trapped in her palm, and all it is doing is killing him. And all he is doing is causing a nuisance for her and her new love by dragging him around leading him "I’m under your spell, Like a Man in a trance."  Making him think that she still loves him too, when it is not.

So as Christian we are called to love but too many times we are too afraid to let go of love. Society has told us that if we do not have it then something is wrong, that your broken, or a freak. But all that causes us to do is to become possessive “THIS IS MY LOVE NOT YOUR’S!!”, “He/She belongs to me!”, “I’ll never find anyone. I’ll be FOREVER ALONE!!!” Love has become a commodity and not a state of being like our Scriptures taught us it is. We are told God is Love, but you can not own God. He just IS. So if you can’t own the very Being of Love Himself what makes you think you have the right to own any other love that emanates from Him? You can’t, it can only be given to you by the complete and totally free will of the other individual.

When one goes to either receive the Sacrament of Marriage or Holy Orders. You are not getting up there and saying “This person here is mine!” or “I belong to this individual/Archdioceses.” No you are making a confession, You are saying “See this person here? I love them freely and I will forever continue to do so.” And thus a Covenant is made between 3 free-individual, both of the spouse (in marriage), the Priest and the Bishop representing the Church and most importantly of all the Being of Love Himself, God.