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rciamusings:

The dream.

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nikosnature:

Getting ready for my first mass with my brother seminarians on Holy Thursday.  You can tell I’m excited. 

Congratulations!!! 

nikosnature:

Getting ready for my first mass with my brother seminarians on Holy Thursday.  You can tell I’m excited. 

Congratulations!!! 

joyfullycatholic:

To some people this image may seem a little off. It’s a picture of two people getting married in the Catholic Church and the caption reads *gasp* “Pray for Vocations.” Usually we see nuns or priests on images like this, but marriage is a vocation too. It’s no holier than the religious life, and no “worse.” Let’s celebrate all the vocations and remember to pray for holy marriages too!

joyfullycatholic:

To some people this image may seem a little off. It’s a picture of two people getting married in the Catholic Church and the caption reads *gasp* “Pray for Vocations.” Usually we see nuns or priests on images like this, but marriage is a vocation too. It’s no holier than the religious life, and no “worse.” Let’s celebrate all the vocations and remember to pray for holy marriages too!

(via joyfullycatholic)

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Why Every 20-Something Female Should Be Ashamed Of Herself

Aggressive title, but I like where it goes. 

If you participate in social media, I’m sure you’ve become acquainted with the viral post “23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged When You’re 23.” by Vanessa Elizabeth.  Vanessa’s editorial urged readers in their young 20′s to see the world and get to know themselves before rushing to settle down and get married.  It’s abundantly clear Elizabeth is enjoying her time as a single girl, traveling the world and gaining new experiences, which she should be – her life sounds pretty awesome.  As with most opinion pieces, however, Vanessa’s article has caused quit a stir among those who are- you guessed it, young and engaged (or married, which I presume is the end result of an engagement, unless you’re a contestant on The Bachelor).  The rebuttal pieces (much like the one here) all maintain the same belief:  that being married or engaged won’t hinder one’s ability to live life and succeed as a person.

I’ve noticed a scary trend among all 20-something women:  the categorical division of girls who are single and those who are in serious relationships.  The “us” and “them” mentality is perpetuated by both parties, and it’s actually ridiculous. Both sides reserve stereotypes and judgement about the other.  The single crowd automatically assumes girls who are married or engaged in their early to mid-twenties are boring and settling.  There’s the assumption girls who have husbands and fiances must not also have careers or social lives.  On the inverse, there’s the common stereotype of all single girls in their mid-twenties as being spinsters in the making who consume too much wine, imbibe in nights at the bars too frequently, and are too career focused to have a rewarding love life. Is each side relying on the stereotypes and put downs against the other to cover up latent jealousy, fearing the grass may be greener on the other side?  If this is the case, feminism everywhere just set itself back about 30 years.

It’s 2014.  60 years ago, it might have been unheard of for a woman to be anything other than a housewife, but that’s because society was  also still segregating schools and encouraging homosexuals to stay closeted.  We’ve come a long way since then, and the general idea in today’s society is based on the notion you can become whatever you want to be without having to apologize for it, or compromise yourself in any manner.  Women should be supporting each other, not limiting one another and dividing themselves into a society of the haves and have nots (husbands, that is).  Instead, girls in their twenties are just trying to prove you cannot, in fact, have it all.

But why do we do this to one another?  Is it jealousy?  I’ll admit this much:  if you had asked me ten years ago where I thought I would be at this point in my life, I would not have told you I envisioned myself being a single freelance writer.  I used to cringe every single time a new engagement or birth announcement popped up on any number of my social media feeds, and I lived in fear of getting my mail knowing there would be a Save the Date or Wedding Invitation awaiting me.  Yes, I was jealous of the girls who seemed to be getting everything I once thought I wanted, but I recently had a realization that put it all into perspective.

My generation has become a pioneering group in many aspects; we’re a generation that hasn’t necessarily followed the timeline or format of our parents.  Not all of us are graduating from college and receiving job offers immediately.  We’re navigating society with new challenges, technology, and competition unforseen in the past.  Because of this, there is no precedent or social norm for any type of timeline anymore:  how can someone expect to be married with children by 28 if they only receive their first real job offer at 27?  On the other end of the spectrum, who is anyone to criticize the individuals who graduate from college and start full time jobs immediately, and are financially stable and settled enough to actually betroth by 24?  We’ve created an impossible double standard in our society; it’s almost as if the women who aren’t in serious relationships prematurely defend themselves by lashing out at those who are.

It is incredibly important for all women to support each other in every aspect of life and not immediately resort to discounting someone’s good fortune as a defense mechanism.  By reassuring yourself the girl who just got engaged is now boring and must not have a fulfilling social or career life, you’re ultimately perpetuating the idea that women can’t be both career minded and family minded.  Very rarely do men face such scrutiny – I can not recall a time where males have sent group texts saying, “Did you hear Joe proposed?!  Kill me, right?  Well, whatever, he’ll be missing out on Fantasy Football this year, so it sucks to be him.”  Is this because society has long accepted the idea of being able to be a family man and a career man?  If that’s the case, why are women limiting themselves by battling one another on the stance of their relationship?

Regardless of what your status is – you should be happy for your friends and all of their accomplishments and milestones in life while focusing on your own.  Everyone has their own individual set of goals, and instead of focusing on negating the great things that happen to others, instead, females should be working on being the best version of themselves they can be.

So no, I will no longer be participating in the scathing group texts when a sorority sister of mine gets engaged critiquing the ring and reassuring the other single girls that “they’ll be divorced in five years anyway.”  I’m going to enjoy the weddings and the open bars that are in my future.  If I meet someone, great, and if not, that’s okay too.  I’m not going to put others down in an attempt to make myself feel better, because who the hell am I to tell someone their successes are limited to only one area of life? 

 

doinitmovin:

I have no interest in one night stands.

I have no interest in 6 month stands.

I have no interest in love made for movie screens.

I want for someone to take my body and soul,

and spend the rest of their life with me.

I want another human to fall asleep next to me

tomorrow and the next day and an eternity after that.

Someone who I wake up next to and never have wonder if they are going to leave. 

Preach. 

(via thequietsinger)

joshua-garcia:

SMACK DOWN!

joshua-garcia:

SMACK DOWN!

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"St. John wrote that ‘perfect love casts out fear.’ I submit that the history of contraceptive birth control movement may illustrate the opposite, namely, that allconsuming fear casts our love."

John F. Kippley

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5 Reasons Not to Live Together Before Marriage

@ConversionDiary (Jennifer Fulwiler) with 5 (secular) reasons to avoid living together before marriage

Most of the religious couples I know adhered to the idea that they’d never date someone whom they weren’t interested in marrying, at least not for long. A friend once mentioned that she had a very nice boyfriend in college whose company she enjoyed, but when it became clear that they weren’t meant to be together for life, they mutually and immediately broke it off. When I first encountered that idea it seemed unnecessarily strict, but now it makes a lot of sense. Marriage is the most life-changing commitment you’ll ever make, and so it makes sense to order your entire dating life toward that goal. When you’re paired up with someone who is not ideal for you, you are missing opportunities to meet the person who is the man or woman of your dreams — and living together makes it hard to extricate yourself from lukewarm relationships, much more so than if you’d maintained separate residences.
 

(Source: windowinthesky88, via verumservo)

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TEMP-DROP: Fertility tracking. Simply, for everyone

As the exact opposite of a morning person, this indiegogo really gets me going. A sensor that measures your BBT in your sleep and auto synchs to NFP/FAM phone apps so you can kick your groggy search for your thermometer— that without fail ends in you dropping it on the floor into a massive pile of laundry— goodbye? YES PLEASE (as in, yes, I just put myself on their early-bird list). 

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Edith Stein's advice to the single ladies :: Catholic News Agency (CNA)

As Stein notes, one’s singlehood might not be deliberately chosen. But one does have freedom in the face of it. Father Jacques Phillippe writes in Interior Freedom, “We need to understand that there is another way of exercising freedom: less immediately exciting, poorer, humbler, but much more common, and one immensely fruitful, both humanly and spiritually. It is consenting to what we did not originally choose.” Certainly the single life is not the only time for a woman to learn what it means to surrender to circumstances we wish we could change.  But it can be viewed as a special gift of time given to us by God to practice the feminine gifts of receptivity, openness, and a willingness practice faith, hope, and love. It is also the time to learn the art of being a woman in everything, from how to dress so as to bring beauty to the world, how to manage finances (a practical skill for one’s lifetime), and how to be gracious in accepting or refusing a date while affirming a man. It is a rich time for learning about oneself and about how to relate to other people.

This period of life is an opportunity for discernment of a personal vocation and mission that God designs specifically for the heart of every woman. While the world encourages us to make our own success, the Catholic woman should quietly and prayerfully listen in order to be led. Certainly God will work through her natural desires, her temperament, and the opportunities He places in her path to reveal to her His mission for her and how she is to love. But she must be disposed to listen. A quieting of the heart is also essential to hear the voice of God. Stein asks, “What does to be called mean? A call must have been sent from someone, to someone, for something in a distinct manner.”